GREAT EXPECTATIONS !!!

“The best things in life are unexpected - because there were no expectations.”

There's a story of a turtle family who decided to go for a picnic.Turtles are considered to be very slow with their work so it took them around 7 years to arrange their picnic. Finally , on one fine day they left their home. During second year of journey they found a place. It took them six months to clean the place and make arrangements.When they unpacked their juice and sandwiches they found that they had forgotten sugar at home. All the turtles big , small everyone started crying and creating a fuss. The eldest turtle decided to send the youngest and the fastest turtle to go home and get the sugar.The youngest one agreed to go but he had put up a condition : noone will untill he is back and everyone agreed upon it. They waited for five years and then they couldnt resist themselves from food so the eldest turtle took a piece of sandwich and suddenly the youngest turtle popped in from behind and said ,'YOU WERE SUPPOSE TO WAIT UNTILL I GET THE SUGAR'.Now the youngest turtle said he wont go and get the sugar.
Some of us waste our time waiting for people to live up to our expectations. We are so concerned about what others are doing that we don't do anything ourselves.


We often forget what we want from life because we are bound by others expectations. Do you really know what you want to do in future or what you expect from yourself?? Expectations often guide us to success and better future , only if they are not a burden.We had an expectation that Sachin Tendulkar will make a century in World Cup FInal 2011 but he didnt because his aim was the team should win the cup and not his century.

Expectations become burden and people start procrastinating things because some how they are not willing to achieve it.Welcome to the world where each one is expecting something from the other.We are lost in viscous circle of expectation when you are a child ur parents want you to get full marks , when you are in your high school they wish you become a doctor or an engineer , when in your college time you fall in love and now your better half whose expectations should be your top most priority , after studies you end up taking a job and where every day you are given a target and if not fulfilled you will be kicked out , when you marry you have your companion as well as kids and then you also start expecting from them.
There are people who are afraid of expectations and they expect very less, so that when they get more then expected they feel its a bonus.But when you start over expecting and you dont,you get frustrated and lose hope.

“High achievement always takes place in the framework of high expectation.”

There are people who are afraid of expectations and they expect very less, so that when they get more then expected they feel its a bonus.But when you start over expecting and you dont,you get frustrated and loose hope.When you think big you will work big same goes with your expectations.When you raise your expectations you will definitely look forward for achieving it.When you expect only the very best you will get only the very best. What you earn right now is what you expect to earn. The amount of free time you have right now is what you expect to have as free time. The relationships you have are what you expect it to be. When you expect the best it's not like expecting something good or something similar, but it is the best and only the best. You have to stop settling for less than you can be or have.

“I do my thing and you do yours. I am not in this world to live up to your expectations, and you are not in this world to live up to mine. You are you and I am I, and if by chance we find each other, then it is beautiful. If not, it can't be helped.”

FOLLOW YOUR PASSION

Imagine a situation in which legends like Sachin Tendulkar and Lata Mangeshkar would have been singing and playing cricket respectively. Would they achieve the level of fame which they have achieved presently. From time to time individuals come across their definite and identified passion which they want to achieve in life , without which they are incomplete.

A  gardener would efficiently do gardening but if he is given a blank canvas would  he paint like M.F Hussain  or Pablo Picasso , because its not his forte. The same goes with all the musicians, dancers, athletes , magicians, designers etc that they aren’t following the rat-race instead they are doing what they like. Even if you cant mint money fast doing what you like or doing something that makes you feel content then forgo that lucrative job offers and follow your heart. Today there are many people who have willingness to do something out of the box but still they are skeptical with what they intend to do and do something which they are not liking. It is very obvious that from a comfort path you are going to do something that might have obstacles but if you are determined enough then you will achieve pinnacle. Though it has the risk factor in it but then your diligence will make the work challenging for you and somehow you will do it.

Above all, be true to yourself, and if you cannot put your heart in it, take yourself out of it.”

But somehow many of us don’t follow this. This is because of the stress given to educational qualifications and degrees are given more importance rather than the hidden talents in an Individual. Many of students take up their career option as what their parents dream for them and not what they like .On an average a child belonging  to the age group 11-13 yrs spends around 7 hrs in school, two hours with his or hers algebra tutor, one hour on improvising  his vocabulary and writing skills and another 2 hours in social sciences and general knowledge sessions , apart from this he is loaded with tons of home assignments which take away around 2-3 hours of juvenile happiness where does the child have anytime to recognize his or her passion: forget pursuing it. The same gets transformed when he is in his boards or undergrads ,haunts him and then he finds himself after few years doing a job with handsome salary but still he is not satisfied.

Inspired from Three-idots movie character named Frahan Quereshi- renowned actor R.Madhvan completed his engineering to pursue his father’s dream. He wanted to do wild-life photography from a renowned Brazilian photographer Andre-Istavan. He gave preference to his fathers dream over his owns. On  the day zero of placement , he gathered enough guts to put forth his heart in front of  his father. He confronted and his proposal was affirmatively accepted by his parents.

Pursue excellence, and  success will follow, pants down.

Chetan Bhagat , iit-delhi and iim-ahmedabad alumnus , who quit his career of international investment banking job for his passion towards writing.When he wrote his first book he had visited many publishers but none supported him except the rupa publishers, as others couldn’t find that X-factor in the book which Chetan felt.He had a hard time before he got his first book published but soon his book became best-seller .He is now author of four best sellers and he is also an open-end columnist with renowned newspapers.

One can choose career of his choice can even switch fields. People in initially stage will not encourage this but slowly the trend has  started in India as well.I took up  commerce in 12 grade got good result but still wanted to opt for fashion designing and some how couldn't crack NIFT , ended up taking NIFD.  In those three years I realised that just being good in drawing or having interest in designing shouldnt be the parameters for which I opted the course. Somehow it was not my cup of tea to work with tailors and draftsmen .I took an entrance and landed up with PGDM-marketing .Meanwhile doing Mba I recognized my passion for doing Mba and I didn’t opt for a lucrative white collar job. In hearts of hearts I had a predilection for teaching over a white collar job.There where obstacles in terms of people and situations who tried to derail me from my path.

Even in small towns or cities in this country there are not millions but hundreds of people who are toiling day and night to pursue their passion and talent at nice level encountering hurdles at every stage in their career yet as in story of King Solomon  the spider never gave up making its web, these people are stead fast on their paths :with a strong belief in their sole and confidence in their diligence to reach the apex however long it might take.

If you want to be happy for a day, go on a picnic.
If you want to be happy for a week, go on a vacation
If you want to go happy for a month, get married
If you want to be happy for a year, inherit wealth
If you want to be happy for a lifetime, do the work that you love.

My Life by Donuts!!!!!!!!

My life is a vicious circle like donut which has many  people, duties and responsibilities.My emotions melt like the chocolate of the donuts during confrontational situations.For me, life is like a donut, delight it before it ends.It is as soft as a donut it cant withstand anxiety.It is colorful and has flavors of bliss and dejection.Life is expensive so it has to be lived in a judicious manner so that it doesn't hamper us in near future.It is something that can be relished if there is balance of everything. I can have toppings of gestures on my face which will make me look as attractive as a donut.My life is tasty, I like to taste all those sweet and sour people who come in my life .This taste of life makes me realize what this vicious circle all about.When you monitor life somehow it resembles donuts , feel it ,live it and enjoy it , till the last bite.In life we have many options its the way you perceive and the way you live it .My life is cheesy and spicy full of updates and gossips , just as a pizza donut.Life is austere like a simple donut its upon you how you embellish it. 

'LIVE LIFE DONUT LIKE'

Milestones between U n Me

Challenging and Tough are the synonyms to a long - distance relationship. But its not impossible.Majority of the relations break-up due to the long distance between you and me. Though it is said Love is blind but its not always.In a long- distance relationship , people tend to be more possessive for each other because they dont know when they will meet each other. You always nag for small things in such relationships though you say you trust him, but deep down the heart you always the fear of  losing him.When you see couples around you feel depressed as you would like him or her to be there with you. Relationships are hard to maintain but when it comes to long-distance it is hardest, the main barrier between the couple is communication.It becomes monotonous to talk everyday on phone or to chat. Sometimes when you want to say something you cant, sometimes when you want him or her you cant, there are many compromises which are to be made in a long distance relation. Its not everyones cup of tea ,you have to be patient enough to understand him or her.All you can do is to plan out properly and put in your extra efforts.Its very good to be in such kind of relations as in a way you are free but still  theres someone  at the other end for you. Most of the people face problem of giving space to each-other , they dont understand that in a long distance relation  they are already given space.This is because sometimes it becomes difficult for you to trust the person at the other end.When you want  that person to hear you at the very moment but he's not available  that brings a robust strain of frustration.Those are the worst days of ones life when you feel lonely.It is testifying time of your love and it strengthens the love between two.In such a relationship the more you talk the more you know each other. It is the time when you want the smallest information about each other, though it may annoy you as you might feel your space is being invaded. Those small fights in relationship make  love stronger, fights are actually essence of love.Phone calls become dull and you want to meet each other but due to other important priorities in life, some how you cant meet each other. This is what  is a long distance relationship all about.

Fights,hardship,distance,communication barrier, understanding but above all is the LOVE that keeps you together.

Aimless ship without a rudder

A person without a goal is same as "Aimless ship without a rudder".A goal is an objective or  aim which everyone of us have in life. It directs us and helps us to achieve something in life.Path for attainment of goal is complex but it depends how much effort you put in. More over it depends how intense you think about your goal , if you have urge to achieve it then somewhere in your subconscious mind that you have to work hard for something.  Life is a game but its not a video game , you need to think about each and every decision cautiously.

Success , Goal , Fame tempts one and all but one should have self-control and stable mind. Its a battle and you have to be ready for endurance and grit, at times when you are half-way home you have to  leave it. It depends on what sort of attitude you have towards your goal. Its very clear nothing is difficult and nothing is easy , its on you how you make it possible. One should dream high and sky should be the limit , this will broaden your goal. People get confused while deciding what  should be the ultimate goal?? Its very important for you to know your goal.

"Know what you want to do, hold the thought firmly, and do every day what should be done, and every sunset will see you that much nearer to your goal." -- Elbert Hubbard

There are people who get afraid of what they what in life but reality is that they neither predefine their goals nor they put in their efforts.One should try try till he succeed no matter day or night.While you are striving hard for your goal dont ever think about failure, just give your best shot then its destiny that plays the final game.


P.S: If you dont have a goal in life start finding one before its too late.

All the Best !!!

When you are out of Luck!!!!!!!!!!!

Some stones  in life always remain unturned while others turn unexpectedly.Similar instances insignificantly happen in our day to day life,but these also make their appearances once in a blue moon.Yes, luck is something that operates for or against an individual.Some people are so lucky that they get whatever they want easily,but there are people who work hard and  fail to get what they want at time.

This Sunday evening i had pre-planned with my dad for Bumper Housie at Gymkhana club for which I was ecstatic about  . I somehow knew that I am the kind of a person with whom luck doesn't reside with  most of  the times ; one who doesnt get anything easily. But this time I thought of giving a shot.The game started , the atmosphere comprised of tension ,anxiety and competition. I was astonished , when I saw people going  hysterical ;buying more than one ticket with a hope to take something back home.I was anxious , as I aimed to win a small prize though not the bumper full-house to be modest.Those 3 hours were full of mixed feelings : hope , worry and desperation  for getting something.Unfortunately my hopes were reduced to nothing because even at the end of three hours I landed up with nothing. On the other the person who won the main prize was the one who had won at not only one place but at many places viz . a trip to Bangkok or an elegant car.Somehow, it felt that all the luck that I had asked for in my pocket seemed to vanish into someone else's.

Seems the lady luck never seems to be impressed with . Hope sometime down the lane the lady would get least be on my side. Seems when a person is out of luck, most of the times its a state of despair . But what matters at the end of the day is that you dont let the courage and the confidence let out of your pocket even if the lady luck passes out. It is these small but important keys of life that surpass all odds including those of Lady Luck or fortune .

LIFE'S NOT THAT !!!!!!!!

When I was in my teens I started earning and Life was my way !! I had an illusionary idea about life in my mind that Life was irrational and one should enjoy it. The beauty of enjoyment defined by me at that time was endless shopping and freaking out.Whenever I was in distraught the only thing that made me composed was shopping. For me Life was something that was covetous full of worldly pleasures. Whenever I was gloomy I used to shop and buy something unusable.I found that people living such a life are never truthful to  themselves cause some how  to avoid some faults in them they use branded attire and cosmetics.May be at one point of life everyone fall in love with this way of living.But during this phase of life you meet those people who are ego-centric and may be they are with you for worldly pleasure and not when you are Happy Sad and not Sad-Sad.

When women are depressed, they eat or go shopping , thats what i believed in.

But  this is something that is ephemeral. Life should have a goal and that goal should not relate to materialistic possessions.

Material possessions, winning scores, and great reputations are meaningless in the eyes of the Lord, because He knows what we really are and that is all that matters.

Everything excessive in life ruins the purpose of life.One should aim for a straight-forward life.Life is short so Thank God for what you have  and use it judiciously. I regret being a shopoholic as this nature of mine has not given me anything  in life except for few minutes happiness.

cheers to vaidehi and niyati !!!!!

This is for my best-friends....


On first day  of my school ,
I met two angels.
They were best of all.
With  whom i laughed and cried.

Together we share, 

Our dreams and secrets, 

Because its love and care,

 That we have. 

You are always there,

 When I am in fear,

 To make smile.

 I miss those days in school, 

How we made teachers fool?? 

Those endless gossips, Like grown-ups. 

Together we lazied,

 And got punished. 

Thanks to Mr chauhan .

 I miss those parties ,

 And night-outs. 

 In which niyati had lots to say,

Vaidehi used to hear her patiently, 

And Rushina used to sleep.

 No matter one is alone or away,

 But we are always near. 

In times of trouble,

 And in times of thanks, 

We are there for each other.

 We had good and bad time ,

 Together we made things fine. 

We danced and dine, 

Till late at nine.

 I..Miss..U...Niyati...Hope to have endless gossips and night outs with you..Thanks to both my angels...LOVE U..LOTS!!! 

Roots are bitter but results are sweeter...

This ones specially for those who aspire to become an entrepreneur. Well i hail from city of Ahmedabad and from Gujarati background which has given birth to many of upcoming entrepreneur be it Ambani or Adani.. There are many entrepreneurs in Ahmedabad and am one of them. I am a self-emplyed educator who runs tution classes at a very small scale still am proud to be an entrepreneur.

I started my business 4 years back though it isnt something big but every year I meet new people and I have to tackle them in a different way.People say its good you have your business but its obstinate, its a never ending job. Its difficult  to handle parents' need in such a market where you have number of competitors , but for me the teaching is something which i like doing and moreover i want to share my knowledge in a different way than others in the market. If not today i will definitely make it big tomorrow.


As i see many of my friends working in IT companies,Manufacturing plants, Telecommunications etc they have fixed working hours and at times they might get late , but in business you have to be 24*7 available.   Considering an example of nearby chaiwala he is  the best example of an entrepreneur, he handles human resources ,he handles his day to day working capital and most important is he knows how many cups approximately is his daily target accordingly he manages his show . In any business it is the entrepreneur who works hard for the success of his business. Though books say entrepreneurs are those who generate ideas but its not only generating ideas it includes A-Z business. I have seen those entrepreneurs who relax and sit and watch the show of the business carried on by his staff , and suddenly he realises Oh no..Now what?? One thing is very clear that your subordinates are more interested with their salary rather than your company's goodwill. First thing that an aspiring entrepreneur should keep in his mind is that, "its my idea my business and my prestige ,I have to work hard for it". There are few businessmen whom i have seen doing low grade work and completing their targets in their manufacturing units. Early years  are going to be difficult, may be you are in your office for more than 24 hours as well.

Second most important is Market survey..One has to be aware of the market conditions. Like when i started of my small teaching business I started with state board tutions, then many schools introduced cbse so i had to penetrate into this new market. Entrepreneur's should be flexible in nature and should always incline their business towards the need of the people. If theres something new one must catch-hold of it and start penetrating into the market.

Third most important is customers should be the ultimate profit and goal of the business.Entrepreneur should always focus on customer's needs and satisfaction.In early stage of business if you handle your customers in a satisfying way they are definitely going to get new customers.

Fourth important is business ethics, Business ethics are very important and they should  be within you.. One should see to it that their business is not harming the society rather they should follow corporate social responsibility like "Motif " every year they organize a charity walk.

Fifth important is that entrepreneur must have a charismatic personality. You should be a good listener as well as a good speaker. You should have the zeal of doing business inside you so that you can convince your customers . Business is not only about profit and customers , people working in it are integral part of it one should always take care of them and motivate them..

Business skills develop not by learning books but by experimeting and experiencing. One should always learn from the mistakes. One must have a risk taking ability to build up a palace from ground zero. For those who think that business is a bed of roses and job is hardship Sorry but with this attitude you cant be a good entrepreneur.

Turning 23!!!!!!!!!!!

Life is dynamic in nature. Soon am going to turn 23..Am..disgruntled with this fact.."When I grow up, I want  to be a kid". Its time to step out of the world with a fake smile that reminds me of the poem Once upon a time by Gabriel Okara. Its worst stage of once life when priorities change. Now its time to realise yourself like what you like and dislike. You are appehensive about where you will be in next two years?

I really wish i want to grow up and become a kid.I want to live a care-free life and the best part of being a kid is that you arent aware of certain rules and regulations of the society..You regrettably start realising people around you are selfish may be your friends,your co-workers. Its the time to revitalise your thinking and change your perceptions towards things around you.May be you would realise that those around you are just for fun and are not the one who will help you in journey of life..You may realise that those whom you have lost touch are more important for you..Here you will see the life from profit and loss view point and you will be afraid of making friends..You are no more a college going student you have so many responsiblities on your head. 

You  are hell confused with what you want to do in life..You want to go for further studies??You want to sail with the present job?? or You want to get married?? Many of us might suffer from pressure and stress as what you think is just too different from what your parents think..This is a battle stage in everyone life.If you are a girl you will definitely suffer some major problems  if your parents ignore the fact that you have grown up ,people in the society will make them realise that you need to find a groom soon..Your opinion have gotten stronger ,you decide what you want but still puzzled with your parents fantacies..You learn from others you start judging yourself..

Its the time when you laugh and cry with your dear ones and near ones..awaiting for the one..You are scared and confused..You start evaluating people around you.You may love someone or may be someone else too..And you are astonished as you arent able to figure out things..You are hesitant in taking decision because you are afraid of taking wrong move..This is a check-point in your life ..And its good if you start checking things..You go through a severe emotional trauma in your life as you have tensions regarding your bank-balance,your work, your love, your family everything....You might feel you have lost the battle but no its not too late..Its just a hurdle in life that we all have to pass through and make a rational decision..

Life is a game , a tough road..We need to tavel it..We dont have many options ...Accept change and start living with it...Its CRISIS that each one will face but in a different way...

ALL THE BEST!!!!!

Mother

 Straight   from   my  heart…… 

Mother, how can u get so much energy.

To put things in synergy.

Your cherished and faithful love,

Helped me to fly like dove.

Your duty changed the beauty of the world,

And taught me how to make my own dream- world.

When I was in cradle,

It was you who handle,

With so much of care ,

And your love so fair.

For as long as I remember you ,

You always provided stability,

And I give u all the credibility,

To discover my abilities .

O dear mother,

There isn’t much that I can say,

Nor much that I can do,

But I can  shower you with my endless love,

O my dear mother I love you…

Ah, summer, what power you have to make us suffer and like it.

It is onset of summer and time starts to relish mangoes, watermelons and musk melons.YUMMY !!!! This time temperature escalated early in the month of March , God knows what will be the temperature in May?? People avoid going out of the house during the day time but at night people enjoy  appetizing ice-golas , ice-candies,ice-creams,sugar-cane juice..To avoid sun-stroke people drink" aam pana". The taste that will add  spice to the dry and arid seasons would be home-made pickle and aam-papad  ...And now ahmedabad has hokey-pokey and yogurt places as well . With the change in season one can find so many changes around like there is transformation everywhere . There is alteration in apparel like now people would like to prefer more of light-weight clothes , light colour and airy. The colour of the season would be white. Sweet-sellers will also have a new revised menu like they will have more of mango sweets and " aam raas". Promotional offers for ac, coolers, ice -creams , holiday packages in newspapers and hoarding illustrates the entry  of  "summer season". The best part of this season is a long break from day to day schedule. There's vacation in schools and colleges . Parents take advantage of the vacations and enroll their children in various extra-curricular activities and  summer camps .  Those who like to travel, plan their vacations to  places like shimla, manali, goa  etc...Restaurants, laaris , shopping-malls,garden,clubs, cinema halls, railway stations , bus-stops and air-ports would be flocked with people.  Apart from all this there's a positive vibe going around the people to explore new destinations and venture out higher heights in terms of exuberance and elation !!!!!
Enjoy!!!!

LIBERAL STUDIES!!

Once  i had gone to PANDIT DEENDAYAL UNIVERSITY and there i found this liberal studies course. This liberal studies is not actually liberal rather it is more intense, in one shot they try to teach  u many things together photography,ceramics,craft,drama,trekking,technology, French, German and many more subjects.There might be people who think that this course is not worth coz one might not like few subjects being taught there,but the best part is after 4 yrs you can choose whatever career you want.I have friends who are not satisfied after going for engineering , Mba , medical etc..Everywhere these exceptions are going to be there.But the only advantage that u can have wid this liberal studies course is that after 4 yrs you will choose career what you want and not the one that is  pre-defined after taking admission in any college. India has foot in liberal studies like that  people have abroad. One can choose career of his choice can even switch fields , course etc.People in initially stage will not encourage this but slowly they trend has s tarted in India as well.I took up  commerce in 12 grade got good result but still wanted to opt for fashion designing and some how couldn't crack NIFT , ended up taking NIFD.  In those three years i realised that just being good in drawing or having interest in designing shouldnt be the parameters for which i opted the course. Some how i couldnt work with tailors and draftsmen and all.So i thought of giving GCET for mba and here, people depressed me like why mba?? why switching field?? I was like watever i studied was an  advantage for me but people still believe in old orthodox beliefs.With my MBA i did  part-time tutions some how i got interest in teaching and i didnt go for final placements.Again people started mba-marketing doing tutions why so??  Its all on your interest , if you like to do something and devot yourself you will reach lofty heights.Your learning is never wasted it will help you somewhere or the other.For progress we need open-minded and like minded people and thats very difficult to find. If you go on believing others you will be at ground zero. Make your studies liberal as no one is going to earn from that its your smartness and experience that will be advantageous at that momment. If you join course go with a zeal for learning something rather then calculating ROI. You should know how,  when and where what you need to apply  from your learning. Its always going to help you when you are on ventilator (not in real  sense).It will definitely pay you back.